Everything Good is Worth Fighting For

Deployments suck. Let's get that out of the way. Everyday after Jordan's deployment has gotten a little easier. Some days, we seem to reset to the first day he came home. Imagine, you go a year making all the decisions for your children, all financial choices, keeping up the home, all the cleaning, shopping, cooking... EVERYTHING. Your spouse has laundry, food, and "room and board" provided this entire time. Although the food, living environment, and people aren't as they as at home, they are there. The days finally comes for Jordan to come home and all of sudden all those things collide. We had to find a balance in everything we did. Which chores would become his? There are now two opinions on everything we do for ourselves, our home, and our children. Both of us have changed. I for one, became more independent than ever. I had to learn to give him a voice in raising Layne, to give him the option of taking out the garbage. I, although totally willing, had to realize that my two arms didn't have to carry all of the groceries anymore. He, on the other hand, no longer had a choice of food every meal. He had a rambunctious 15 month old making messes, more toys than needed, and all of the daily stresses that I had dealt with myself... were now in his face too.  Life changed. We changed. But, we love each other more now than ever. We fought through every tear, every tantrum, and every fight. We are still working to find our common ground on some things, learning to communicate again. I can assure you, we will not give up. He fought for our freedom. I fought for our family. Together, we will fight for our marriage.... every single step of the way. Even when things are perfect, you are fighting for your marriage. Everything good is worth fighting for,

 

 

 

 

 

I love you, more today than yesterday.